If you are not present or loving yourself, then you are judging. Judgment is a third dimensional trait. Since we are now on the cusp of entering the fourth dimension, it is time to leave judgment behind. See each other as the unique individual that each is and accept the individual as such.
Unconditional self love without judgment opens the heart. Energetically hold yourself to unconditional love; accept it all. When you can do so, then you can give it away to others. You must feel you are loving yourself, for this indicates what your future will be.
As we move into the fourth and even fifth dimension, choose the shift to be better for you. How do you want the shift to be better for you? Make a list or write out how you want things to be better for you as you continue living in a third dimensional body. Expand choosing to love yourself unconditionally. The shifts are about transformation, expansion and bringing heaven to Earth.
Unconditional love keeps the heart open and open to new experiences. Balance is doing it enough.
Wishing you love in all that you do, Mary